Birthday Haul & OOTD Videos

Hello, lovelies!  In this post, you’ll get not one, but TWO birthday videos.  Woot woot!  The first video is an OOTD video.  While I was filming the birthday haul, I decided to do a quick OOTD video and show you all what I wore.  More awesome news: the dress I wore was NOT in black.  A rarity, I know.

 

 

Here is the birthday haul video.  It was an unseasonably, warm day here in Maryland.  The temperatures reached a high of 79° F (26° C).  As you’ll see in the video, the trees behind me are barren against a bright, sunny sky.

 

Well, that concludes the videos for my 45th birthday.  All of the items purchased in the haul video were bought months ahead of my birthday.  Whenever I buy birthday gifts for myself, I don’t use them until AFTER my birthday.  I feel this makes my purchases more “gifty”.  

TTFN,

Dasia Denise

Goth Bands: How Many Does It Take?

Album Cover courtesy of Discogs

Hello, dear SoulFlowers!  You might be wondering, “What’s up with the title?”  Or maybe not.  A few months ago, a question was asked:  “Can you be a goth without listening to goth music?” in which many of us answered.  My answer was, “No”.  A few other goths disagreed.  After much discussion, another question started floating around YouTube:

“Okay.  So how many bands do you need to listen to in order to be a goth?”

I think this is a good question and I have an answer, which you can see in this video:

 

In the second part of the video, I discuss goth fashion and how extreme you need to be to embrace the goth lifestyle.  I won’t tell you here, but you can check out my answer in the video.  

Do you agree with my answers in the video?  Why or why not?  Please share in the comments.

TTFN,

Dasia Denise

Happy New Year 2018: New Videos

Hello, dear lovelies!  It’s the start of another year and I have two new videos for you.  It’s been a pretty dark holiday for me (not in a good way), but since the death of my mother in 2012 the holidays have lost their festive edge.  I did celebrate Krampusnacht, which was fun, but once Halloween ends I lose interest in the holidays.  It’s sad, but I have accepted this fact in my life right now.

This first video is a look back of all the birthstone outfits that I wore this year:

 

Unfortunately, the cold weather and the holiday season can bring on depression.  It’s a time where I can’t help but think of loss: my mother, friends who I thought were true, flaky family members who have no interest in family, and so on.  I’m already dealing with clinical depression and the holidays tend to exacerbate it. 

I was able to alleviate my sadness somewhat, with “playing dress-up”.  I found that it’s never too old to play dress-up, especially in moments of sadness:

 

That’s it for now, lovelies.  I’ve started drawing again and hopefully, I can keep up with this.  I’m also working to improve my videos with a new setup and new lighting. Stay tuned for some artwork this year and for more fashion!

TTFN (Ta Ta For Now),

Dasia Denise

Gothic Fashion: How To Tuck Your Skirt

Hey, motherTUCKERS!  I’ve been asked by a few people (and noticed by fellow belly dancers) about the 25-yard skirt that I often wear in my outfit-of-the-day videos.  The 25-yard skirt (also known as a tiered skirt) is a staple of belly dance costumes, particularly tribal fusion and tribal (i.e. ATS® and ITS).  So, I decided to show you all how I tuck in my skirts, achieving a frilly, gothic look.

 

 

I encourage you all to watch the video, but you can read the basic instructions below on how to tuck your skirt.  I’ll show you 4 different ways to tuck in your skirt: the Right-side tuck, the Hitchhiker tuck, the Double-cross tuck, and the Bustle tuck.

 

 

THE RIGHT-SIDE TUCK

Grab the left side of the skirt about 1/2 to 3/4 of the ways down and pinch these pieces together.  Bring these pieces up and hold them out to your left side.

 

Take the skirt that’s in your hand and bring it around the front to your right side.  Twist the fabric together and tuck the skirt in on your right side. 

 

Once these pieces are tucked, fluff out the ends to accentuate the frills on your right side.

 

 

THE HITCHHIKER

Grab the skirt 1/2 to 3/4 of the ways down.  The further down you grab the skirt, the less the ends will stick out, creating less poof.

 

Bring the skirt up, flatten the side with your free hand and tuck the skirt in.  Repeat this step on the other side.

 

This is the tuck that I wear most often in my gothic wardrobe.  It’s one of the easier tucks to achieve and can easily be undone and re-done.  This is essential when “nature calls”.

 

 

THE DOUBLE-CROSS TUCK

Grab the skirt 1/2 way down on your right side, then flatten the front of the skirt with your free hand.  Tuck the skirt in on your left side.

 

Reach 1/2 way down the other side of the skirt.  Pull this end out towards the side.

 

Take that end, wrap it around the back, and tuck the skirt in on your right side. 

 

You may need a full-length mirror for this look, in order to keep the front and back of the skirt flat.

 

 

THE BUSTLE

Reach 1/2 way down the right side of the skirt and hold the skirt out to the side.

 

Wrap that side towards the back and tuck in the skirt.  Repeat this same step on the other side. Again, a full-length mirror will be helpful in making sure the front is flat and that the bustle is nice and fluffy. 

 

I used the reflection of myself from a large window instead of a mirror, resulting in a sloppy bustle.  Not only should I have used a mirror, but I also should have tucked the ends in more.

 

 

Now, let’s discuss yardage for a bit.  Tiered skirts used for dancing typically come with different yardage: 15 yards (13.7 meters), 25 yards (22.9 meters), and 36 yards (32.9 meters).  Tiered skirts also come in 10 yards (9.1 meters).

 

As you can see below, the more yardage a skirt has, the more fluffy the skirt will look.  Keep in mind that more yardage may also increase the weight a skirt, depending on the type of fabric used.

 

That’s it for now, my dear lovelies.  I really enjoyed creating this video and more importantly, my viewers found these tucking tips helpful.  You’ll find that these tiered skirts are very versatile and are suitable for a whole range of body types.   If you’re into long, frilly skirts like I am, these skirts make an excellent addition to a gothic wardrobe.

Peace, love & darkness,

Dasia Denise

Goth Fashion for October: Opal

Opal image via Photobucket.  Opal info via Crystal Vaults.

Hello, lovely Soulflowers!  This is another outfit post honoring October’s birthstone, Opal.  I went for drinks with friends, so I kept my look pretty casual.  I also wore my glasses – didn’t want to fuss around with contact lenses.  All of the action happens above the neck.  Lol.

Opals are hardened silica gel and contain 5 to 20% water.  Because of its many colors and energies, opals represent several elements and used for all seven chakras.  Opals come in all colors imaginable.

 

OPAL INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLES: The Eye Stone, The Stone of Inspiration and Change

COLORS: Various including rainbow, blue, black, yellow, orange, red, green, brown, and colorless

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 7.0

CHAKRAS: All of them, leading up to the Crown (7) chakra

ZODIAC SIGN:  Libra (September 24 – October 23)

SYMBOLIZES: Love, Passion, Desire, Eroticism

ELEMENTS: Air, Earth, Fire, and Water

 

 

 

Even though opals are “rainbow gems”, paired with black the colors really pop.  Wearing the ornate opal pin in my headscarf makes me feel like a queen, and the pin was only $20.  Not a bad price to look like royalty.

Peace, love & darkness,

Dasia Denise

 

2 Years Of Freeform Locs!

Hello, SoulFlowers!  Guess what?  My dreadlocks turned 2 years old in May of this year.  Woot!  They’re still growing longer and getting thicker, which makes me very happy.  To celebrate this milestone in hair, I’ve created a video showing the progression of my dreadlocks.  This is also the first video that I tried morphing software.  It’s not great, but it’s not too bad for my first try.  I hope you all enjoy seeing the progression.  I’ve also included pictures in this post, after the video.

Peace, love & darkness,

Dasia Denise

 

 

 

2-YEAR LOC PROGRESSION

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2016

 

 

2017

 

 

Peace, love & darkness,

Dasia Denise

Back From The Ashes: July, August & September

Gemstone pics via Photobucket.  Gemstone info via Crystal Vaults.

Hello again, dear lovelies.  This is Part 2 of my birthstone outfits.  This post covers my birthstone outfits from July to September.  Bright red, lime green, and deep blue – all great colors to add to a gothic wardrobe.  Whether it’s your hair, shoes, or accessories, adding color to either of these attributes will pop against an all-black outfit.

 

JULY – Ruby

 

This video starts off with me talking about the layoff from my job, but it is also an OOTD video.  Ruby is an obvious favorite since it matches my hair color.  My outfit is towards the end of the video, starting at 05:11.

 

RUBY INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLE: The Stone of Nobility

COLORS: Colorless, light pink, pink, red, and crimson

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 9.0

CHAKRA: Root (1)

ZODIAC SIGN:  Cancer (June 22 – July 22)

SYMBOLIZES: Passion, Protection, Prosperity, The Sun

ELEMENT: Fire

 

 

 

AUGUST – Peridot

 

Lime green and black are perfect for gothic fashion.  The black horns and lace complete the outfit.  Peridot is only one of two gemstones formed from molten rock, not from the Earth’s crust.  The other gemstone formed from molten rock is the Diamond.

 

PERIDOT INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLES: Gem Of The Sun, Evening Emerald, True Topaz

COLORS: Yellow, yellow-green, olive green, lime green 

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 6.5 – 7.0

CHAKRA: Heart (4)

ZODIAC SIGN:  Leo (July 23 – August 22)

SYMBOLIZES: Passion, Vitality, The Sun

ELEMENT: Earth

 

 

 

SEPTEMBER – Sapphire

 

I’m wearing blue lipstick again.  I was inspired by sapphires – how could I not wear blue lipstick?  The outfit’s pretty basic: just a t-shirt, sparkly belt, and black pantaloons.  Sapphires also represent royalty and divinity.

 

SAPPHIRE INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLE: The Stone of Wisdom

COLORS: Black, green, orange, pink, white, yellow, violet, and various shades of blue

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 9.0

CHAKRAS: Throat (5), Third Eye (6)

ZODIAC SIGN:  Virgo (August 23 – September 23)

SYMBOLIZES: Power, Strength, Kindness, Wisdom

ELEMENT: Water

 

 

Well, that’s it.  We’re now back on track with the birthstone outfits.  It’s a good thing too, since we’re now in October – just 2 more months until the end of the year.  Stay tuned for October’s outfit, inspired by its birthstone, Opal.

Peace, love, and darkness,

Dasia Denise

Back From The Ashes: April, May & June

Birthstone pics via Photobucket.  Birthstone info via Crystal Vaults and American Gem Society®.

Hello, lovelies!  It’s been SIX MONTHS (gasp!) since my last blog post.  Since starting my YouTube channel, I’ve been busy creating videos and unfortunately, I’ve had little time to focus on my blog.  I was also laid-off from my job in June, so my mental state has gone through ups and downs.  But no worries – I’m back and ready to rock!

Since my main way of communicating is through video, this blog will be a landing page for my channel.  Even though I haven’t posted anything here since March, I have been making videos every week.  So, for the next few weeks, we’re going to play catch-up.  Stay tuned for new videos, as well as some older videos that I have not posted here.

This post will feature the monthly birthstone looks that have not been posted here.  Here are the OOTD videos and information for the birthstones of April, May, and June.  Yikes!  I’ve got a lot of catching up to do.

 

APRIL – Diamond

 

This look was inspired by April’s birthstone, Diamond. You can’t go wrong with all-black and gothic bling!  Diamond is the hardest gemstone and is known as the “King of Gems” (the “Queen of Gems” is Pearl).

 

DIAMOND INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLES: The King of Gems, The Stone of Invincibility

COLORS: Colorless, white, black, yellow, pink, brown, blue, green, and red

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 10

CHAKRA: Crown (7)

ZODIAC SIGN:  Aries (March 21 – April 19)

SYMBOLIZES: Purity, Innocence, Love, Fidelity, Strength

ELEMENT: Air

 

 

 

MAY – Emerald

 

This look was inspired by May’s birthstone, Emerald. Green is one of my favorite colors in goth fashion, with so many shades to choose from.  Lime green is another favorite of mine.

 

EMERALD INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLE: The Stone of Successful Love

COLORS: Shades of yellow-green, green, and blue-green

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 7.5 – 8.0

CHAKRA: Heart (4)

ZODIAC SIGN:  Taurus (April 21 – May 21)

SYMBOLIZES: Spring, Renewal, Growth, Youth, Hope

ELEMENT: Earth

 

 

JUNE – Pearl

 

As the temperatures rose, it was time to step out in summer goth fashion. I’m wearing black pearls and black roses – birthstone and flower for the month of June.  It’s also the first time in many years that I decided to sport blue lipstick.  Pearls are the oldest, known gemstone and are the only birthstones made by living creatures.

 

PEARL INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLE: The Queen of Gems

COLORS: Various colors including white, pink, cream, brown, green, blue, black, and iridescent

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 2.5 – 4.5

CHAKRA: Sacral (2)

ZODIAC SIGN:  Gemini (May 22 – June 21)

SYMBOLIZES: Purity, Innocence, Truth, The Moon

ELEMENT: Water

 

 

That’s it for today, my lovelies.  There have been so many changes since I last posted, with YouTube, Photobucket, etc.  Basically, sites are slamming down the gauntlet, making it much more difficult to use photos and monetize videos.  The good news is that I LOVE making videos and blogging, so I have no choice but to adapt to the changes.  We’ll see what happens.

Peace, love, and darkness,

Dasia Denise

Goth Fashion for March: Aquamarine

Aquamarine image via Photobucket.  Aquamarine info via Crystals and Jewelry and Crystal Vaults.

Hello, lovelies!  My apologies for the late post.  It’s still March so it’s technically not late, but my video was posted 2 weeks ago.  Eek!  A week before the first day of Spring (March 20), we got a little bit of snow, and I just had to wear an all-black outfit.   I love the look of all -black on fresh, white snow.  It highlighted not only my black outfit, but the icy-blue bindis, which sparkled against the white, snowy background.  

This look is inspired by Aquamarine, birthstone for March.  Aquamarine comes from the Latin words, aqua marina, meaning “water of the sea”. Since ice and snow are forms of water, the cold weather was fitting for this gemstone. Not only does aquamarine symbolize courage and fortitude, but it is also represents cleanliness, calmness, truth and letting go. 

 

AQUAMARINE INFO & SYMBOLISM

TITLE: The Stone of Courage

COLORS: Light blue to bluish-green

MOHS SCALE HARDNESS: 7.5 – 8.0

CHAKRA: Throat (5)

ZODIAC SIGN:  Pisces (February 20 – March 20)

SYMBOLIZES: Courage, Fortitude, Inner Peace

ELEMENT: Water

 

Here’s what I wore.  It was COLD, but I braved the frigid weather to show off my winter outfit: a hooded, cropped sweater, simple black skirt, and tall black boots.  Everything (except the boots and sweater) were purchased on Ebay.

 

Cropped sweater: Cryoflesh, 20-eye boots: Doc Martens (brand)

 

 

I don’t own anything in aquamarine, except for bindis.  The rest of my eye makeup is highlighted in silver.  The red lipstick brightens my face.

 

 

 

That’s it, lovelies.  I’m still in transition with this blog.  I’m thinking this blog will be more of a supplement to my YouTube channel, so expect the focus to switch to videos.  I’m not much of a writer, but I can definitely show my face.  Stay tuned.

Love & Shimmies, 

Dasia Denise

 

Skulls, Beads & Freeform Dreads: Month 22

Hello, lovelies!  It’s been awhile since my last post.  I’m not sure what’s going to happen to this blog, since my main outlet has been posting YouTube videos. I will still keep you posted on my dreadlock progression and gemstone looks, but I’m not sure what the future holds for this blog.  I guess time will tell.

Today’s outfit highlights 2 of my favorite things: black skulls and black beads. This dress from KILLSTAR is quickly becoming one of the my favorite pieces!

 

 

Occult leggings: Lip Service (brand), Tall boots: FitFlop (brand)

 

Here’s my face.  I chose a pretty simple makeup look to go with my pretty simple outfit. Two small, black bindis on the sides of my eyes highlight the heavy eyeliner:

 

Skull necklace: Kreepsville 666 (brand), Crystal dreadlock bead: Heather Fish Creations (Etsy), Seed bead necklaces: The Gypsy Rose Boutique (Etsy)

 

And finally, here’s how my locs are doing:

 

 

 

That’s it, y’all.  I will still create blog posts, but the bulk of my content can be found on YouTube.  If you haven’t done so already, be sure to check out my channel, Gothic SoulFlower.  TTFN!

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise