Hey, Gothic Fam! It’s Friday the 13th!

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Hey, lovelies!  It’s Friday the 13th and I decided to take this day to send love and gratitude to all of my supporters.  At this time, I’ve reached 2, 036 subscribers on my channel.  In the vast online world of YouTube, this is a very small number, but to me?  To me, it’s a lot – a whole lot more than ZERO.  Lol.

I’ve included 2 videos in this post.  The first one is my answer to the question, “Can You Be A Goth Without The Music?”.  While many agreed with my stance, others didn’t.  Thankfully, the disagreements were respectful, but there are gothic folks out there that feel excluded from the subculture.




This second video is my latest video, where I explain how I feel about goths and people who are darkly-inclined (gothic).  It’s also a video expressing my love and gratitude.


I really do appreciate each and every one of you that have supported me, my blog, and my channel.  I want both my blog and my channel to be a welcoming place, free from the drama and the trolls.  I hope you stick around for more.

Peace, love & darkness,

Dasia Denise

Goodnight, My Fur Queen


Rainbow Bridge image via Photobucket.

Yesterday, I had to have my beloved cat, Samantha, euthanized.  My heart is in pieces right now.  My crazy Samantha (we nicknamed her “Psycho Kitty”) was defiant, but sweet.  This queen ran the household, and would snuggle with me when the house was nice and quiet.  She was my first pet and we spent almost 12 years together.  She’s been with me through many life changes: moving 4 times, meeting my life partner, going through my mother’s death, being abandoned by friends, and much more.  I didn’t realize how sick she was until yesterday morning.  Her painful meows were unbearable and she was in a lot of pain.   The vet explained a couple of options, but there was no guarantee that she would get better, and Samantha was clearly suffering.  As difficult as it was, the vet confirmed that euthanasia was the best decision.  I’m heartbroken, but now my Psycho Kitty rests in peace.

My dear Samantha,

I will miss you , your craziness, and your demands to rule our castle.  I love you.  Thank you for adding so much joy, comfort, and happiness to my life.



Dasia Denise

Your fur-less Mommy

A Birthday Post for February’s Birthstone: Amethyst


Gemstone pic via Photobucket. Gemstone info via Crystal Vaults and Wikipedia.

Today’s look is inspired by the lovely Amethyst, my favorite birthstone.  Out of all of the birthstones, amethyst is the best one, since today is my birthday (*wink*).  Just in case you’re wondering, I am now the “tender” age of 43.

Amethysts were believed to have special powers to both stimulate, and soothe the mind and emotions.  Amethyst has always represented February, in which the Ancient Romans dedicated to their water god, Neptune.  It is also the stone of St. Valentine and represents “faithful love”.  Named after the Greek word, ametusthos, meaning “not intoxicated”, amethysts have been used to prevent drunkenness.



TITLE: The Stone of Sobriety

COLORS: Pale red-violet to deep violet


TYPES: Ametrine, Chevron, Cacoxenite, “Rutilated

ZODIAC SIGN: Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

DEITY: Artemis, Greek goddess of the hunt and childbirth

The Greek goddess, Artemis (Image via Photobucket)

DIVINATION: “I do not need to reward myself any excesses of any kind to feel good.”

CHAKRAS: Third Eye (6) and Crown (7)

HEALING PROPERTIES: Boosts hormones, oxygenates the blood, strengthens immune system, aids treatment for digestive tract, heart, stomach, and skin


Here is today’s birthday outfit.  I went for many layers and wore my new, occult leggings:

PROJECT 666 Staples: Burnout lace shirt (S4), Long black t-shirt (S5), Asymmetrical hem skirt (Skt1), Occult leggings (P3), Long duster (J1), and Platform boots (B4)




Long duster: Amazon, Platform boots: Dr. Martens. Everything else was purchased on Ebay.


Large, purple bindi: Sew Fae (Etsy), Raw amethyst necklace: Habit Jewelry (Etsy), Seed bead necklace: World Market




Here’s my minimal makeup for today.  I just didn’t have the energy (nor the patience) to put on false eyelashes – just bindis and eyeliner:





That’s it for now.  My apologies for the delay in getting a new post out.  It’s been cold and therefore, I’ve been lazy.  More posts coming soon, I promise.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise


5-Month-Old Dreads for “Uncanny Remnant”


All artwork in this post courtesy of Chris Siron©.  Used with permission.

Hello, lovelies.  My freeform locs are now 5 months old and I’m becoming more attached to them.  They’re looking as crazy and frizzy as ever and I love them!  This is a pretty short post, since I’ve already covered my outfit and makeup in Saturday’s post.  My dear friend Matt and I went to see an art show at the Arts Club of Washington.  We went to see the artwork of our friend and past co-worker, Chris Siron.  I knew he was an artist, but I never got a chance to see his artwork.  I must say, his collage work is awesome!  I absolutely love his style.

First, here are a couple of pics of my “babies”:





A few pics from the art show:

With my dear friend and fellow artist, Matt
With my dear friend and fellow artist, Matt




I'm not sure if you can tell by this picture, but I thought these crooked steps looked a bit creepy
I’m not sure if you can tell by this picture, but this was a very crooked staircase




The artist himself and his awesome work:





Courtesy of Chris Siron©


Courtesy of Chris Siron©


Art card and business card of Chris Siron©


And last, but not least, how my babies have grown so far:







Do yourself a favor and check out more of Chris’s artwork.  Besides his wonderful collages, Chris also paints, writes, and creates animation.  Click on any of the links above to go to his website.  Very impressive and inspiring work.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise


OOTD & Makeup for Summer Solstice


Hello, my pretties.  Today is the official first day of Summer.  It is also Father’s Day here in the US, so be sure to honor the fathers and other father-figures in your lives.  Show them just how much you love and appreciate them!

Here’s what I wore to work on Friday.  If there’s ever a time to wear white, it would definitely be Summer.  It gets humid here in Maryland, so my outfit is minimal.  Not much layering is done during the dog days of Summer.  When it’s hot, I make full use of adornments, mainly bindis and temporary tattoos:



White dress: bought in Costa Rica, 25-yd. black skirt: Ebay, Boots: Steve Madden (brand)


Black leather cuff: aosLeather (Etsy), Silver & onyx slave bracelet: Old New Blue Things (Etsy), Metallic tattoos: Jewel Tats




Here’s Friday’s makeup.  Again, not much makeup.  I prefer just eyeliner and lipstick.  It’s simply too hot for full eye makeup.  It can be done of course, but it’s not every comfortable.  Summer is the season for minimalism:







That’s all for now.  I’ve mentioned this in a previous post – I’m addicted to these metallic tattoos!  They were made for summer festivals, so they are perfect accessories for hot weather.  How do you stay fashionable and gothic during the summer?  Feel free to share in the comments.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise


OOTD & Makeup – Simple Goth for Graduation


Yesterday, I attended my niece’s graduation from kindergarten.  I have never been to a graduation where the graduates were so small!  I almost died from cuteness overload!  Absolutely adorable.  Since I knew that I would be around kids, I kept my outfit simple and comfortable.  It’s a good thing I did that, ’cause my niece pulled me in to dance with her and her fellow graduates!


Here’s what I wore.  Like I mentioned, I didn’t want anything too fussy.  It’s also getting more hot and humid, so just the basics would do.  However, I did add a little flair to my shoes with shoe clips purchased on Ebay:



Asymmetrical tunic: Amazon, 25-yd skirt: Ebay, Shoes: Clarks (brand)




Here’s my simple makeup.  This is basically my “summer-face”.  I prefer keeping my makeup light for when I wear glasses, which are a must for anything involving education (ha ha):





With my niece, who also wanted to wear a bindi. I had attached a few of them on her graduation card and she instantly started sticking them on her forehead. The smile on my face says it all!




Below my signature are a few more pictures of my niece’s graduation.  I had so much fun!  I enjoyed seeing these little ones graduate, sing and dance.  And there were colors galore!  Be sure to check out the brightly colored cupcakes.  I seriously wanted to enroll at this school!

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

This is one of the teachers at my niece's school. Her shoes were so high! Her fellow teachers said that she wears super-high heels everyday!
This is one of the teachers at my niece’s school. I think these are the highest heels that I’ve seen in real life. Her fellow teachers said that she wears super-high heels everyday!




You Like Me! You Really Like Me!

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Unless otherwise noted, all gifs and photos are from Photobucket.

I have been nominated for the Liebster award by Ramona, mistress of the awesome blog, Just Keep Brains!  Thank you for nominating me, Ramona. My first blog award!  Woo hoo!  The Liebster award is given to new bloggers with fewer than 200 followers, and I am happy to participate.



1. Post the award on your blog.

2. Thank the blogger who presented this award and link back to their blog.

3. Write 11 random facts about yourself.

4. Nominate 11 bloggers who you feel deserve this award and who have fewer than 200 followers.

5. Answer 11 questions posted by the presenter and ask your nominees 11 questions.



1.  I was almost kidnapped as a baby.

2.  I have piercings, but no tattoos.  (At least, not yet. *wink*)

3.  My 2 favorite shows on the air right now are Better Call Saul and Rupaul’s Drag Race.


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Werrrk, Mama!


4.  There are 2 degrees of separation between me and President Barack Obama.

5.  Belly dance is the only formal dance training that I’ve received.  I started belly dance in September 2009, at the age of 36.

6.  The older I get, the more squeamish I get watching violence.  And I will NOT watch any film depicting torture – real or scripted.

7.  I have one pet, a black cat named Samantha (her nickname is “Psycho Kitty”).  She will turn 11 years old in June.  That’s the equivalent of 64 human years!

8.  I have not worn my natural hair color in over 20 years.

9.  I’ve worn prescription eyeglasses since age 13.

10. It’s been 3 years since my last cigarette.  I now vape.

11.  My sweetheart and I have been together for 11 years – my longest romantic relationship.



1.  Do you believe in spirit animals or a connection to animals in any way?

I don’t believe in spirit animals, but I do have a strong connection towards nature – especially the weather.  If I did believe in spirit animals, mine would be a butterfly.


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2.  What was your favourite city you’ve been travelling to so far?

So far, it’s Nosara in Costa Rica, which is more of a resort town than a city.  Beautiful country with nature galore!

3.  If you could live as any creature in any time and any place you’d like, what would it look like?

I would be an intergalactic creature, with bright, green eyes that can shoot rays, skin that heals immediately if damaged, and small, black horns.  The time would definitely be some time in the future, perhaps in the year 3015.

4.  Why did you start blogging and are you still blogging about the same subject/s?

I started blogging as somewhat of an online journal.  I also wanted to connect with other alternative people, especially those closer to my age.  They’re not easy to find in real life.  My blog started with mainly fashion and random thoughts I had about different subjects.  Now I mainly blog on the gothic, bohemian style and tribal belly dance.  I also want to use my blog to send joy out into the world.

5.  How did you come up with your blog’s name?

I wanted a name that would incorporate my love of the gothic subculture and also of tribal belly dance.  The “gothic” part is self-explanatory.  The “soulflower” part ties into my boho, hippie style.  I was going to name my blog, “The Queen Butterfly”, but that name was already being used for another blog.

6.  Who is your favourite Villain?

Gus Fring, from Breaking Bad.


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One of the baddest mofos in TV history.


7.  Favorite Season?


8.  What are you afraid of – any phobia?

Spiders!  I LOATHE spiders.  8 eyes, 8 legs, and the way they move.  Yuck!  They are the most “unnatural”, natural creatures living on this planet.  This is one gothic lady who just can’t deal.


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9.  Vampires, Werewolves, Zombies?

Vampires.  They’re the most stylish out of the three and they’re immortal.

10. Would you prefer a night at the club / a bar or on the couch or in nature?

On the couch.  I love being in my head.  I’m also kind of boring.

11. What would be your top wardrobe staple?

My black, 25-yard skirt.  So pretty, so frilly, and oh, so comfortable.  They come in every color imaginable and can look beautiful on all body types.


I can wear this skirt for the rest of my life.
I can wear this skirt for the rest of my life. (Photo: mine)




**NOTE:  Most of the blogs that I follow or know of have more than 200 followers.  Sigh.  That’s what happens when you’re late to the blogging party.  Sorry, but I’m gonna have to cheat BIG TIME on this one.  However, I’ve listed the blogs with under 200 followers first.  Eternal Wynter is the last blog on my list that has under 200 followers, for sure.

Vampire Rose, The Aging Goth – I recently discovered this blog, created by Vampire Rose.  She’s over 60, with great tips for us elder, gothic beauties.

Space Unicorn – This is an online diary and personal style blog of Lynoire, whom I was introduced to during Sophistique Noir’s Red & Black Week 2014. Lynoire describes herself as “a crafty geek girl from Hungary”.  Cute blog.

Gothic Flamingo – Not only do I love the blog name, but this blog features some cool gothic art. 

Kick The Last Nail In – Cute fashion blog by GothBarbie.

Little Corp Goth Girl – While a lot of gothic blogs are about art and fashion, Sylvie writes about her life as a married, goth mom who works in an office.

Eternal Wynter – Great photos on this blog.  Dark, yet colorful.  Enticing. 

Hazy In AZ – I met Cliff on Facebook, through an old high school friend.  Cliff has over 200 followers (271 as of now), but he’s an excellent writer and a real, chill guy.  His blog is perfect reading when you want to chill out on a beautiful morning with a cup of coffee.


Cliff with his best buddy, Shadow Zombie
Cliff with his best buddy, Shadow Zombie. (Photo used with permission)


The Everyday Goth – I’ve been following Mary Rose’s blog for a couple of years now.  She’s been on hiatus since February, but she has created a great blog.  She may have more that 200 followers, since this blog started in 2011.

The Walrus Room – Not sure how many followers Sarah has (probably way over 200), but I love her style.  I’ve been following her for a couple of years.  Her photography skills are on point!  Lots of useful fashion advice, also.

Nephilim Incorruptus – He’s a vlogger that I discovered on YouTube.  He makes very intelligent videos about the goth subculture.  I can watch his videos all day.

Jwlhyfer De Winter – Another vlogger that I’ve started following recently.  She’s an elder goth with impeccable style, although she prefers to be described as “gothic”, not “goth”.



1.  When and why did you start blogging?

2.  With MP3s and internet streaming, do you still buy CDs or DVDs?

3.  How would you describe your style of dress?

4.  What religion or philosophy do you ascribe to?

5.  What are your favorite TV shows on the air right now?

6.  What other hobbies do you participate in, besides blogging?

7.  If you participate in the arts, which ones do you participate in?  Are you a hobbyist or a professional?

8.  If a movie was being made about your life, which actor/actress would play you?

9.  Choose one: Coffee or tea?

10.  What colors have you dyed your hair?

11.  Introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?


This was super duper fun!  Much love and many thanks to Ramona for the nomination.  As I stated above, I wanted to use my blog to connect with other alternative people, and this was a great chance to do so.  If you are nominated, be sure to pay it forward.  It’s wonderful sharing the love, especially in these trying times.  In the words of my “patron saint”, Rupaul:


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“If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?  Can I get an Amen?”

** AMEN! **

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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Love Sees No Color – Happy Birthday, MLK!

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Martin Luther King, Jr. – January 15, 1929 – April 4, 1968 (Image source)

Today we honor Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., leader of the American Civil Rights movement.  No outfit or makeup post today.  Just a short post to honor this great man.  Because without the fearless men and women of the Civil Rights movement, this would still be the reality:


JFK and MLK photos via Photobucket.


But instead, this is my reality:


Obama photo via Photobucket.  Dance photo courtesy of Toscana Photography.


Unfortunately, racism is still alive and well.  We have come a long way, but our job is not done.  We need to keep spreading love and joy around the world, regardless of one’s skin color.  Let’s do our part to make the world a less racist and more loving place.  Remember, before race, color, religion, gender and class, we’re all human beings first.

With love, honor and respect,

Dasia Denise

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Image source

A Small Tribute To Phenomenal Women



Maya Angelou photos via Photobucket.
The great American poet and author, Maya Angelou, passed away 2 days ago at the age of 86.  She used the power of words to bring healing to many people.  One of these people was my mother.  Suffering from an abusive childhood, Ms. Angelou’s words, along with The Bible, brought my mother peace and comfort.  Her favorite book was I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings.


The first phenomenal woman in my life
The first phenomenal woman in my life – Mom in 1983


Not only did Maya Angelou write about the black experience in America, she also had a way of understanding the human condition.  My favorite poem from Maya Angelou is “Phenomenal Woman”, written in 1978.  This poem brought me solace in a world that harbors a hatred of women – especially women of color and those of us who don’t fit the standard Westernized, white-is-right, fat-is-horrible, beauty ideal.

In honor of, not only Maya Angelou, but to all the amazing, beautiful, fierce women in my life, I’m sharing her wonderful poem with all of you.  The accompanying photos are some of the phenomenal women who have been a big part of my life.


(In the photo galleries, you can click on or scroll your cursor over each photo for more information.)



by Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me.



My amazing and brilliant sister, J


I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.   
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.



Two of my favorite dancers, Rin Ajna & Ebony
Two of my favorite dancers, Rin Ajna & Ebony



The Queen of Tribal Fusion
The Queen of Tribal Fusion, Rachel Brice (image via Photobucket)


Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.


A few of my stunning dance instructors.  L-R: Jen, Colleen (my first dance instructor), Rachel Brookmire (director of Sahara Dance DC), and Elisa.  (Photo courtesy of Sahara Dance)
Four of my dance instructors , UDM 2012. (L-R): Jen, Colleen (my first dance teacher), Rachel Kay Brookmire (director of Sahara Dance), and Elysa. (Image source)


Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair,   
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.


The awesome ladies of Raquettes Samia - UDM 2013 (Photo courtesy of Toscana Photography)
The awesome ladies of Raquettes Samia – UDM 2013 (Photo courtesy of Toscana Photography)



With my dance sisters of Shimmy Mob DC (Photo courtesy of JP Photography)
Dancing with Shimmy Mob DC (Photo courtesy of JP Photography)


I cried a little bit, writing this post.  I am very lucky to have so many beautiful, talented, and truly awesome women touch my life.  I hope this poem brings you peace, love and happiness, just like it does for me.  I also hope that I’m doing my part to bring love, light and creativity to all whom I come into contact with.


(April 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014)

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”interview from the July issue of Beautifully Said Magazine, 2012


If you’re not familiar with this amazing woman, you can go to her official website.  Her life was too vast and extraordinary for this blog to do it justice.


Much Love & Many Shimmies,

Dasia Denise


Remembering Those Who Fought For Our Freedom



To all of those who have fought and died for our freedom and the freedom to express ourselves:

Thank you.  From the bottom of my heart.  This day is in your honor.  You will not be forgotten.


Dasia Denise

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