Freeform Dreads & Friday the 13th: Month 20

Hello, lovelies!  I’m back.  We’ve finally arrived in 2017, but unfortunately I was sick for almost 2 weeks!  Not a great start to the year, but I’m now feeling a lot better and ready to roll.

The weather was pretty decent on Friday the 13th, so I decided to wear one of the new dresses I purchased around the holidays.  It’s so soft and comfortable, and it has thumb holes.  Love this dress!

 

Dress and moon pendant: KILLSTAR, 20-eye boots: Doc Martens (brand)

 

 

 

Here’s my face.  Simple as usual.

 

Black skull dreadlock bead: Zaahn (Etsy), Silver dreadlock beads: Heather Fish Creations (Etsy)

 

And finally, here’s how my locs are looking so far.  They’re getting longer!

 

 

 

That’s it, y’all.  I do apologize for my 2-week absence.  Like I said before, I’m ready to rock, so stay tuned for more posts this week.  I’ve included an OOTD video below.  Enjoy.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

Video: Cultural Appropriation & Dreadlocks

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All photos courtesy of Photobucket.

A couple of weeks ago, I posted a video on YouTube discussing cultural appropriation and dreadlocks.  Around Halloween, the subject of cultural appropriation becomes a hot topic.  Some people leave their brains at the door, and show up to parties wearing blackface, yellowface, Native American war bonnets, and all sorts of foolishness.  Are these examples of cultural appropriation?  You bet it is!  At the very least, it’s highly offensive.

But are dreadlocks considered cultural appropriation?  Should dreadlocks only be worn by black people?  Many people think that dreadlocks come from black culture, but this is not the case.  In this video, I share my thoughts on cultural appropriation and dreadlocks.

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Bob Marley helped to popularize dreadlocks in the United States

 

Do you think cultural appropriation exists?  Should dreadlocks only be worn by black people?  Please share in the comments.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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New Pikes & Freeform Dreads: Month 16

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Hello, lovelies!  I’m a bit late in posting an update on my dreadlocks, but I had a major system fail this past weekend.  Like an idiot, I didn’t back up my system and I had to create a new YouTube channel since I’ve lost access to my old one.  GRRRR!  The good news is, I was smart enough to save my videos, so I’m working on re-uploading them to my new channel.  The huge lesson I learned is to BACK UP MY COMPUTER SYSTEM.

 

Anyhoo, let’s move on to what I wore.  It was another hot and humid day with NO BREEZE WHATSOEVER.  So I kept it very simple with a shirt dress and leggings:

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PROJECT 666 Staples: Blue shirt dress (D10), Black leggings ((P5), Low pikes (Shoe2)

 

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Here are my new winklepickers!  Woot!  The flat soles and low cut of these shoes may not suit my body type, but I really don’t care.  I absolutely love them.  They’re handmade with black suede and pentacle buckles, purchased from The Gothic Shoe Company.  They also have a store on Etsy.

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My face was even more simple than my outfit.  Just eyeliner and lipstick.  I added a silver moon stamp for a bit of flair:

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Dread beads: Heather Fish Creations (Etsy), Eyeglasses: Zenni Optical, Onyx necklace: handmade by me

 

And finally, here’s the update on my dreadlocks.  They’re getting longer and thicker, which makes me very happy!

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That’s it for now, lovelies.  It’s been a frustrating week, but some lessons are learned the hard way.  Please check out my new channel, Gothic SoulFlower.  To start fresh, I’ve added another OOTD video to my new channel.  Please enjoy.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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Brain Fatigue and 11-Month-Old Dreads

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Hello, my fellow darklings.  I’m back to blogging after a 2-week mental hiatus. As some of you know, there are times when one needs a mental health break. Nothing’s wrong, life just got a bit overwhelming.  But y’all didn’t miss anything and now I’m back to blogging.

I had planned on starting the Spring/Summer wardrobe for Project 666, but it has been so cold and windy lately.  We would get about 2 days of warm weather, and then the temperature would drop.  I’m not complaining though.  The warm/cold situation is typical for Spring and it’s still not as cold as Winter.  Thank goodness for that!

Here’s today’s outfit.  Since I’ve now “recovered” from my brain fatigue, I kept my goth look simple:

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PROJECT 666 Staples: Shredded t-shirt (S11), Long skirt (Skt2), 20-eye boots (B3)

 

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Shredded t-shirt: secondhand, Long skirt: Amazon, 20-eye boots: Doc Martens (brand)

 

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All jewelry purchased on Etsy. Ebony wood stud earrings: House of Shiba, Black choker w/ black gems: Ego Driven, Wax seal monogram necklace: J & A Wares Jewelry, Silver key necklace: Fuchsia Bloom Studio

 

I also kept today’s makeup light.  I can’t find my black cat-eye glasses (*boo hoo*), so I’m wearing my backup pair.  I need to go to the eye doctor anyway and order more glasses, so I’m not worried about finding my black pair.  I am convinced that my house eats things, never to be found again, so I expect that my black eyeglasses are gone forever.

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Next month my locs will be a year old.  Woot!  Here’s my loc progression so far:

 

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This was a pretty short post, but I’ll have longer posts very soon for April’s birthstone and birth flower.  I’m also working on some makeup tutorials (finally), so stay tuned.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

New Color for 10-Month Old Dreads

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Hello, all.  With being sick and then having to put my sweet girl down, it’s been a rough week.  But I’m ready to get back to blogging and settling on a daily routine for myself.

I decided to (finally) bleach my roots and add a new color, “Atomic Pink” by Special Effects.  I kept the “Blood Red” color (also by Special Effects) on the ends of my dreadlocks.  I wasn’t sure about the brightness of the pink, but after getting dressed in my gothic garb, I love it!

 

Here’s what I wore.  I wore a black camisole under the cropped sweater, which is not pictured (I consider the camisole “underwear”).

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PROJECT 666 Staples: Cropped sweater (S7), Yoga tribal pants (P1), Boots (B1)

 

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Cropped sweater: Cryoflesh, Yoga tribal pants: Creaturre (Etsy), Boots: FitFlop (brand)

 

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Silver eye pendant: Ebay, Black cross earrings: gift

 

Here’s my face.  Just eyeliner, eyebrow pencil, blush, and lipstick.  I added 4 tiny dots on the sides of my eyes:

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Finally, how my locs have progressed so far:

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I’m happy that I decided to bite the bullet and dye my roots.  I was hesitant, because I wanted my locs to mature a bit before bleaching and dying.  I think this new color will look even better, once my roots start to loc.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

 

9 Month-Old Dreads for Monday

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My locs turned 9 months old yesterday and they’re getting longer and thicker. I’m very pleased with them, so far.  However, I don’t know how I feel about my gray hairs sprouting at my roots.  I may still bleach and re-dye my roots, but maybe I won’t.  Maybe I should just embrace my natural hair color?  Hmmm.   We’ll have to wait and see.

Yesterday’s outfit and makeup were very simple.  Monday outfits tend to be simple, since I’m switching from relaxation mode (Sunday) to working mode:

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PROJECT 666 Staples: Burnout lace shirt (S4), Yoga tribal pants (P1), Boots by FitFlop (B1)

 

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Burnout lace shirt: Ebay, Yoga tribal pants: Creaturre (Etsy)

 

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Black leather choker: Ebay, Eye of Horus rosary-style necklace: iMosh (now defunct)

 

Here’s yesterday’s makeup.  There’s not much here – just eyeliner, lipstick and blush:

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Here’s how my locs have progressed so far.  I named my dreads “birthday dreads”, but my birthday is not for another 2 weeks:

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This was a very short post, but the good news is I have started cooking more of my meals!  There will be future posts on different recipes that I’m trying out.  Be sure to stay tuned for more.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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5-Month-Old Dreads for “Uncanny Remnant”

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All artwork in this post courtesy of Chris Siron©.  Used with permission.

Hello, lovelies.  My freeform locs are now 5 months old and I’m becoming more attached to them.  They’re looking as crazy and frizzy as ever and I love them!  This is a pretty short post, since I’ve already covered my outfit and makeup in Saturday’s post.  My dear friend Matt and I went to see an art show at the Arts Club of Washington.  We went to see the artwork of our friend and past co-worker, Chris Siron.  I knew he was an artist, but I never got a chance to see his artwork.  I must say, his collage work is awesome!  I absolutely love his style.

First, here are a couple of pics of my “babies”:

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A few pics from the art show:

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With my dear friend and fellow artist, Matt

 

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I’m not sure if you can tell by this picture, but this was a very crooked staircase

 

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The artist himself and his awesome work:

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Courtesy of Chris Siron©

 

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Courtesy of Chris Siron©

 

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Art card and business card of Chris Siron©

 

And last, but not least, how my babies have grown so far:

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Do yourself a favor and check out more of Chris’s artwork.  Besides his wonderful collages, Chris also paints, writes, and creates animation.  Click on any of the links above to go to his website.  Very impressive and inspiring work.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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OOTD & Makeup: 4-Month-Old Dreads

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Hello, lovelies!  Today is month 4 of growing my awesome sauce dreadlocks.  Not only that, my blog has been updated and is now live.  Woo hoo!  It was a bear migrating my blog from WordPress.com to WordPress.org, but I finally did it!  I also learned how to use HTML and CSS to customize my blog.  It was a daunting task and I’m still tweaking my blog, but my hard work has finally paid off.  I hope you like the new look.

We’ll start with my outfit from yesterday.  Today’s the first day of September, so we’ll probably have another month of hot weather here in Maryland.  It’s steamy, but I won’t complain – before you know it, it’ll be cold again.  I decided to wear the summer dress that I purchased at the Gathering Of The Vibes festival from last year.  I don’t usually show this much of my bare thighs, but I decided to give this look a try:

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Lightweight cardigan: Amazon, Over the knee socks: Sock Dreams, Boots: Doc Marten (brand)

 

Here’s my face from yesterday.  Just the basics: black eyeliner and black eye- pencil.  I decided on barely-there color for my lips:

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And last, but not least, here’s how my locs have progressed in the last 3 months.  There’s not much of a change between months 3 and 4, except for maybe a bit more fuzziness:

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By the way, I’m now on Twitter (@Dasia_Denise73).  I don’t know if I really need it, but Facebook has been giving me the blues with their weird algorithms affecting my fan page.  We’ll see how this Twitter thing goes.  Feel free to follow me and share!

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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OOTD & Makeup: 2-Month-Old Dreads

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Hello, lovelies.  Today is the 2-month mark of growing my locs.  Things are going splendidly so far, even though my hair looks crazier and more fuzzy.  But it’s interesting to see them form.  They seem to have a mind of their own.  The color is fading, but I’m hoping to dye them soon.  If not, then no big deal.  It’s a good thing I’m a tribal belly dancer – I can cover my gray and dark brown roots with flowers and a scarf.

Before we dive into the OOTD and makeup, let’s talk hair.  First, here are the hair products that I no longer need.  I feel free already!

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No more! I have stopped using the conditioner, leave-in conditioner, pick, and comb. But if you have loose, curly hair I highly recommend the Giovanni® hair care line.

 

Now for the products I do use.  Right now, it’s just residue-free shampoo.  For recommendations on which shampoos to buy for washing dreadlocks, you can go to the Raging Roots Studio website and go to their “Recommended Shampoo List“.  I bought the Shea Moisture® Shampoo from Amazon.

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Also good to have on hand: a tam, for when my hair is looking a hot mess, and a microfiber headband, to absorb sweat during hot yoga.

 

Here’s what I wore.  I bought the dark blue tunic from a fashion show that I attended back in February (DC Fashion Week).  Most of the other clothing were either brightly colored or pastel, so I was pleased to find something dark:

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As you can see, keeping the sleeves rolled up can be a challenge. Blue tunic dress: bought at DC Fashion Week, Black leggings: Amazon, Winklepickers: Underground Shoes

 

Here’s my face.  It wasn’t too hot outside, so I went a little heavy on the eye makeup:

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Applying my almost-black lipstick. Silver spike earrings: Opulent Oddities (Etsy)

 

Here’s how my hair has progressed so far:

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My hair is gradually losing its length, but the locs are starting to show.  My hair will continue to shrink until the locs start to mature – then I’ll start gaining some length (hopefully). It really is interesting seeing what my hair can do when left alone (not entirely – I do separate my hair).  Can’t wait to see how they look next month.

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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A New Chapter In My Hair-story: Freeform Dreads

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Hello, lovelies!  Last month was the start of my new hair journey.  After having sat on the thought of growing dreadlocks (which I’ll be calling “locs”) for about 3 years, I’m finally ready.  I’m all about having low maintenance hair, so I’ve decided to grow my locs using the “freeform” method.  But first, a little hairstory. 

My hair never behaved.  NEVER.  I attempted different hair styles throughout the years, and most looked “okay”.  Nothing great.  I used to have “straight-ish” hair.  I say “straight-ish” because even with a perm, my hair would not get “stick straight”.  The only time I had completely straight hair was when I went to the hair salon. After my second trip to the hair salon (my first was when I was 9 years old and it was a disaster), I had very straight hair.  Unfortunately, I also had a raw scalp.  I was, and still am “tender-headed“, which is somewhat of a sin in black-owned hair salons.  I went to the salon with hair that already had a red tint, so I ended up with orange hair instead of blonde.  It didn’t bother me, though.  Since I was in my “alternative, grunge” moment, the orange hair suited me just fine.

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My permed hair in its natural color, 1989. My dedication to the “creamy crack” started in high school.

 

This is me during my second year of college, circa 1992. This was the first and only time I had my hair professionally bleached, which was done the summer before leaving for college.
This is me during my second year of college, 1993. This was the first and only time I had my hair professionally bleached, which was done in the summer before leaving for college. You can see that my hair was bleached on top of permed hair.

 

After years of dyeing, frying and laying my hair to the side, my hair went on strike and said, “Fuck you!  I can’t do it anymore!”.  I deserved it too, because I put my hair through hell – bleaching, dyeing, AND straightening with a perm.  My hair had had enough.  It got to the point where it couldn’t even hold a curl.  Styling my severely damaged hair was out of the question.  That was the day in 1998, that I told my roommate to cut off ALL of my hair.  I said, “Fuck it”, went bald and loved every minute of it!  So low-maintennance, so free.  This is also when I realized how important hair was to some people, especially men.  Most of the women complimented me; the men absolutely HATED it.  But I knew that my hair would grow back and since I don’t need anyone’s approval concerning my hair, their cries went in one ear and out the other.

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Me in 1997. This picture is dark, but you can still see that my hair was FUBAR.**

**FUBAR: Fucked Up Beyond All Repair (or Recognition).

 

So, for 17 years I’ve worn my hair in its natural texture (I still dyed my hair, of course).  It was a fresh start for my hair, and even though I dyed it, it was still a lot healthier than before.  It also helped that I didn’t use heat on my hair.  For the past 2 years though, I did blow out my hair occasionally.  Since I could never blow-dry my hair completely straight, I just ended up with big hair.  And I LOVE big hair!  Not dirty hair.  Not unhealthy hair.  BIG hair.

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There is no shame in having big, “unruly” hair! – (Image source unknown)

 

I was never one to “do” my hair, meaning I couldn’t be bothered with styling my hair after I went natural.  Too much work and too much fuss for me.  It’s too bad, because there are some fabulous, natural hairstyles that black women wear.  But I’m just too lazy and too impatient.  I only bleached and dyed my hair on the weekends since it took a bit of work.

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Playing with my hair to see what it can do. I discovered that I can make “horns”, which is as far as a hairstyle I was willing to do.

 

So, here we are.  Last month on May 1, 2015 was the last day I picked up my comb.  And my pick.  And my conditioner.  With my loose, natural hair I didn’t use shampoo, but conditioner instead (known as the “no-poo” method).  Except for washing out the bleach in order to dye my hair, I used conditioner to wash my hair.  If you have naturally curly or kinky hair, I highly suggest the “no-poo” method.  Way less drying than shampoo.  But with locs, I now use shampoo – no conditioner.  I’m going with freeform locs, so right now all I’m doing is washing and separating my hair.

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Blow-dried hair, 2013

 

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Loose, wild hair, 2015

 

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If you are thinking about growing dreadlocks or just want to learn more about them, there are 2 websites that I highly recommend: Dreadlocks Site and Raging Roots Studio.  Both of these sites are educational and have wonderful advice concerning growing natural dreads (natural meaning no wax or other added chemicals that are unnecessary).

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Each month, I will post a progress report on my locs.  One thing that I’m hoping to learn from growing locs is patience.  Growing dreadlocks can be a long process and some people say, a huge learning experience.  I also know that my hair is not going to look “pretty” at times, but that’s part of the process.  

Love & Shimmies,

Dasia Denise

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